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KARABO MORAKE: SA’s rep in Mr Gay World 2018

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Karabo, who is now 27, has described himself as an MC, Dancer, Lawyer, and First Runner-up Mr Gay World Southern Africa 2017. He was born and raised in Mafikeng, Northwest Province. He studied LLB law from 2009 to 2012 and moved to Cape town in 2013 to study Practical Legal Training with the university of Cape Town studied, and then stared working at Law For All, Lipco, where he is currently an Internal Relations Legal Executive Manager.Karabo1i
Karabo also studied business rescue practice with Unisa and was ultimately registered as a junior business rescue practitioner, and was subsequently admitted as the 252th Business Rescue Practitioner in South Africa in 2015. He also studied with the African School of Mediation
In 2017, Karabo entered the Mr Gay Southern Africa competition and was chosen as first prince. As Exit goes to print, he is in Knysna competing in Mr Gay World 2018 as the Southern Africa entrant. Juan Pinnick, who was chosen as Mr Gay SA in 2017 was unable to represent SA in this competition as he is recovering from an operation on his knee.
Karabo is a trained Latin and Ballroom dancer and has won the Youth Championship National SA title for 2010, 2011 AND 2012. He recently won the best SA male Latin dancer at the SA Dance Awards 2016. He also ended up in the top 24 of the So You Think You Can Dance hit reality TV show.
Karabo is actively involved in a project called Tell Your Story. This is more of a personal campaign to him as he is in the forefront of Tell Your Story. This campaign looks at combating suicide amongst the LGBTQI+ community. He survived a suicide attempt with his coming out story. It is one that is very saddening and breaks his heart each time he talks about it. It saddens him that a lot of young people attempt to end their lives due to society’s influences, religious believers and families that refuse to accept their children when they come out of the closet. He tells his story to whoever is keen to listen in order to reach out and save lives. He has had numerous radio stations and newspaper publications in the Western Province and North West Province cover his story. The campaign aims at being a voice for those that can’t speak for themselves and being a beacon of hope for those who find themselves in darkness.Karabo4i
Karabo recently revealed that he and his German boyfriend Max (34) had become engaged while he was on a three week trip to Europe. They have made no further plans for their relationship as, as Karabo said he needed to concentrate on the task at hand: representing SA in Mr Gay World 2018.
The outcome of the Mr Gay World contest, which climaxes on 27 May, is sure to be in mainstream media, but you will also find it here and on mambaonline.com

Be a Hero: Stand in Solidarity against Homophobia, Transphobia and Biphobia

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International Day Against Homophobia, Transphobia and Biphobia (IDAHOT) is marked annually on the 17th of May to draw the attention of policymakers, opinion leaders, social movements, the public and the media to the violence and discrimination inflicted upon lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and intersex (LGBTI) people, as well as all those who do not conform to majority sexual and gender norms. This year, Alliances for Solidarity has been chosen as the event theme, because fighting violence, lobbying for legal change and campaigning to change hearts and minds cannot be done in isolation.
“With a report by the Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN) revealing that 8 out of 10 LGBTI students are being harassed at school each year simply because of who they are, this is a very important day particularly for LGBTI youth,” says Riaan Norval, Project Manager for Young Heroes - a campaign being run by Anova Health Institute and funded by the Elton John Aids Foundation aimed at empowering adolescent LGBTI youth, specifically young men who identify as gay or bisexual, or who are questioning their sexuality.
The GLSEN report also found that LGBTI students have lower grades, more attendance problems and are less likely to complete high school than their heterosexual counterparts. What’s more, many experience long-term emotional effects from the bullying, harassment and intolerance they face as students.YoungHeroes
Norval shares that it is important to clarify the difference between a ‘phobia’ and ‘prejudice’. “A phobia is a strong, uncontrollable, unpleasant often irrational emotion caused by an actual or perceived danger or threat, like spiders or a fear of clowns. Prejudice, on the other hand, is an adverse judgment or opinion formed without knowledge of the facts. What people call homo- and transphobia is actually prejudice. You don’t go seeking out something you fear, whereas with homo- and transphobia, people seek to harm others with insults, discrimination, extreme levels of intimidation and even violence.”
“It can also be more subtle – a feeling that you're being ignored or treated with less respect than your peers ,or seemingly innocuous statements like the good old, ‘I'm not prejudiced, I even have a gay friend’ or ‘that's so gay’. The sad truth is that if you're gay, you will probably encounter homophobia at some point. While being picked on for your sexuality can be upsetting and embarrassing, always remember that you are not the problem, they are. The majority of homophobes act out of ignorance and fear. Often it's a question of immaturity. Like bullies, homophobes get satisfaction and power from putting others down.”
He urges young people who are experiencing homophobia, transphobia or biphobia to utilise the information, safe spaces, resources and supportive community offered by the campaign through its social media, website and mobile platforms. “Young Heroes also provides access to mental health support, should you need it.”

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The SA BIKE Festival

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The SA Bike Festival takes place at Kyalami again. This years dates are 25 -27 May. Once again the festival will feature a wide range of bikes for you to look at and test drive on the track. There will also be displays of vintage and custom bikes, and accessories and after market equipment. The Legacy Group have joined up with the Festival and will have special deals for out of towners as well as running Jamies Italian VIP area.

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For some reason bikers are thought to be a bunch of antisocial rebels, which, of course, is far from the truth and the annual RAMBO Blanket Run will take place on the 27th. Bikers can meet up at Yamaha World in Sandton at 8am and ride out to the festival bringing a blanket along. Last year over 2000 blankets were distributed to the homeless.

We have arranged a special discount for our readers and followers on tickets to South Africa Bike Festival. Use promo code BIKEPR and save R50 off ALL your tickets from today! You will find more info and buy tickets onwww.southafricabikefestival.com.

Commonwealth Homophobia

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The Commonwealth is a grouping of 53 countries, mostly former British colonies, so South Africa is a member. But unlike in South Africa, where discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation is forbidden by the constitution, 36 Commonwealth countries criminalise homosexuality. Most of these laws date back to the era of British colonial rule decades ago, and seven countries can impose life imprisonment for same-sex acts. Even worse, there is the death penalty in parts of northern Nigeria and rural Pakistan.Commonwealth

So when the Commonwealth heads of government meeting (CHOGM) took place in London and Windsor during April there was pressure from Human Rights and LGBT groups for change. The Peter Tatchell Foundation co-organised a petition and a protest outside Marlborough House, headquarters of the Commonwealth Secretariat.

“This petition is telling them it’s time to stop persecuting LGBT+ people,” said petition co-organiser, Peter Tatchell, when the petition with more than 104 000 signatures was handed over.

“Commonwealth leaders have refused to even discuss LGBT+ human rights for six decades. This protest is to tell them: Time’s up on blocking debate. Time’s up on legal discrimination. Time’s up on homophobia, biphobia and transphobia,” he said.

These are the four demands of the petition to the leaders of all Commonwealth nations:
• Decriminalise same-sex relations
• Prohibit discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity
• Enforce laws against threats and violence, to protect LGBT+ people from hate crimes
• Consult and dialogue with national LGBT+ organisations

In addressing Commonwealth leaders British Prime Minister Theresa May expressed regret for Britain’s role in criminalizing same-sex conduct in its former colonies. “I am all too aware that these laws were often put in place by my own country,” she said. “They were wrong then and they are wrong now.”

“As the United Kingdom’s prime minister I deeply regret both the fact that such laws were introduced and the legacy of discrimination, violence and death that persists today.

“Nobody should face discrimination or persecution because of who they are or who they love and the UK stands ready to help any Commonwealth member wanting to reform outdated legislation that makes such discrimination possible.”

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Humping When A Hug Would Do

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Are you having sex when all you need is to be touched?

By Bruce J. Little

 

We all need to be touched. It’s well-documented that babies that were not touched and held after birth stopped developing and often died, even if they received all the nutrition that they needed. We may not be babies anymore, but we still need to be touched.

The problem is that society has somehow convinced many of us that men do not need to be touched or can’t be trusted to touch or be touched in a non-sexual way, and this has become even more complex for gay, bisexual or queer men to navigate. A man touching another man with affection has been labelled as ‘gay’ and now straight, and gay men alike suffer from this ignorant way of thinking because we are creating a society of men who are suffering from touch isolation.Mixedcouple

Homophobia has created many a society that frowns upon contact between men, for fear that this contact and intimacy could spark homosexual inclinations. This has left millions of straight men also starved for affection and intimacy from their fathers, brothers and male friends. With gay men, these interactions become even more sexually-loaded.
Touching someone means so much these days. Holding another man’s hand has a much more dramatic effect now than it did say 100 years ago. In rural areas around, South Africa it is still commonplace to see two men walking hand-in-hand, but in most urban or densely populated metro places in South Africa, this gesture has come to be seen as being synonymous with homosexuality. Holding another man’s hand means you are having sex with him. How did we get here? In a world were so many fathers are already holding back on showing their sons affection, gay boys are presumably receiving even less affirming touch from their dads.

As a gay guy, I am highly conscious of which men I touch and how I touch them, as well as super aware of the types of touch that I receive from other men. I’m very lucky. As a gay man with a fantastic relationship with my father and brother, I enjoy regular hugs and the odd hand on the back of my neck and shoulder. It means the world to me. I also have a group of gay men that I have platonic relationships with that I get to regularly embrace and spend time with intimately in a non-sexual way. The problem is that I am the exception and not the rule. A lot of men don’t have these opportunities to be touched in an affectionate platonic way.

There were times in my past where I also went for weeks without being touched by another person, and I could actually feel the lack of that intimacy. I knew that there was something significant missing from my life. It hurt, and I felt even more alone in the world.

With hookup apps as prevalent as they are these days, it’s easy to find someone in a 5 km radius to meet up for sex, but I wonder how many of these hookups are motivated by the regular need to get your rocks off, and how many are actually just triggered by a conscious or subconscious need to be touched.

Would we be as promiscuous as a community if we were touched more often?

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