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Cameroon: Homophobia derails a pro sports career

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By Steeves Winner

Eighteen-year-old Stenie (a pseudonym) always wanted to be a professional football player.
Two years ago, that dream came true. She joined the professional Intersport football club in the city of Yaoundé, Cameroon, and the team paid her enough money to live on.
She lives alone, with no other financial support, rejected by her family because of her sexual orientation.
This is her story:
I pursued my education until secondary school. In 2013, I stopped because of the school’s homophobic and discriminatory climate.
Because I look masculine, people called me “boy-girl.”Camles2
I decided to pursue a career in football even though I knew that people in Cameroon discriminate against female football players on the assumption that they all are lesbians.
In 2013, I decided to join a club to start a football career and to fulfill my dream of becoming a professional football player. I played for five years. Two years ago, I became a professional at the Intersport football club.
At first, it was really hard. I endured insults and discrimination. Team members called me a rug muncher. Others pejoratively called me “father.”
One night after a match, I barely escaped from two men who jumped me from the bushes on my way home. I was able to get out of that mess only because passersby heard my cries and intervened.
Then, on Friday, Nov. 23, after a match where I played well, the manager and my coach at Intersport told me that I wouldn’t be on the team any more. They said the club’s success was in jeopardy because of public pressure and anti-gay judgments about me.
“What did I do?” I asked. “How does my presence hurt the club?”

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Dusty Ray Bottoms Live in SA

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S & S Productions and MVT Productions are pleased to announce that they will be hosting a RuPaul’s Drag Race Contestant once a month, for the rest of the year, at Babylon -The Joburg Bar as well as Zer021 Social Club in Cape Town.   The first Queen to grace the Stage will be Season 10 Contestant Dusty Ray Bottoms:   (From the website www.dustyraybottoms.com)DustyRayBottoms

Dustin Rayburn was born and raised in Louisville, Kentucky, where he popped out of his mama and onto the stage. He spent his childhood performing in community theatre, concentrated in theatre at Floyd Central High School , and ultimately attended Wright State University for Musical Theatre. After college, Dustin packed up a suitcase with just a few bucks in his pocket, and set out for New York City!       Having spent years admiring the pageantry of Kentucky drag, Dustin was instantly taken with the out-of-the-box drag he found in NYC. The son of a preacher man,  with musical theatre training and a punk rock soul, Dustin’s unique point of view and style of story-telling had finally found a home. And thus, Dusty Ray Bottoms was born!       Dusty grabbed the attention of NYC nightlife with her showstopping performances in competitions such as The Miss Look Queen Pageant hosted by Bob The Drag Queen and So You Think You Can Drag? Named “Who’s Next” by NEXT Magazine as “the kind of performer who just might have what it takes to rival major drag talents like RuPaul and Bianca Del Rio.”, Dusty had become a resident Drag Queen in NYC!       

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David Beckham Sports Eye Makeup on the Cover of LOVE Magazine’s Latest Issue

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The latest issue of LOVE magazine hit stores in Britain on Tuesday, 8 January and people were immediately abuzz about its cover, which features famous British footballer David Beckham sporting green eyeshadowbeckhamlove
Many on social media are head over heels in love with the photograph, which features the always-stylish Beckham in a white suit — custom-made by Dior — on a red background.
Inside the issue he discusses his career. “That’s how my career started and that is where I felt most at ease, most confident and happiest,” Beckham tells the magazine about his time spent on the soccer field. “I turned into a totally different person. Once I was on the field I knew that was what I could do best.”
The mag also quotes Beckham as saying, “I was always that kid in the corner that didn’t really say much. I knew that once I was on the field, I was confident. It was all I ever wanted: to be - a professional footballer.”
Since his retirement from the game, David Beckham has been a highly paid brand ambassador, appearing in ads for brands including Samsung and Sprint. He’s also got his own underwear line (which he has also modelled himself) and most recently unveiled the grooming line House 99 by David Beckham, a partnership with L’Oreal.
This soccer star has always been a tastemaker and trendsetter, and this David Beckham eye makeup photo is only the latest instance of him doing what he’s great at.
The latest issue of LOVE magazine, which is part of Condé Nast Britain and which is declared to be its first “moving image issue,” will be on sale in South Africa by the time you read this.

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When enough is not enough

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FS magazine, surveyed Gay and Bi men and discovered that nearly 40% of gay men have anxiety issues when it comes to their own penis but are also quick to judge others.
Some other interesting findings came out of the survey:
89% had shared a dick pic, and 30% said they wouldn’t care if that pic was shared with other people.
16% had heard derogatory comments about their penis, 21% had suffered from erectile dysfunction, and 28% had problems with ejaculating too quickly.
When asked if penis size mattered, half – 49% – said no. Slightly more than a third, 37%, said yes.
And also, 74% said they are happy with their penis size.Yellowbulge
Regarding the 22% who had rejected someone because of their penis size, CEO of GMFA Ian Howley said this was likely due to their own ‘insecurities’.
‘People already have anxieties about their own issues because of their penis size,’ he said
‘If you’re rejecting someone, you might be doing that because you’re afraid they’ll reject you first. That means you need to look at your own insecurities, and you’re going to be less confident about themselves and the sex they want.’
While it is ‘easier said than done’ to get over anxiety issues to do with your penis size, Howley encouraged those who felt they had a real issue to seek counselling to ensure size doesn’t make an impact on health and well-being.
‘We found people who are bigger than average to have a bigger anxiety,’ Howley said. ‘Not only do they have to deal with being rejected sometimes, but also people who just use them for their penis size than as a person.’
Howley concluded: ‘All gay men deserve to have the best sex possible. Our penises come in many shapes, sizes and skin tones – just as we do. And like us, our penises need looking after. Just don’t let your penis dictate your whole life.’

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WE ALL HAVE SEX: GET OVER IT!

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By Phumlani Kango

Somehow, I always find myself in conversations about sex between men (men who have sex with men), the topic always turns to “promiscuity” and the next line that follows is usually “We are men, so this is how we behave.” Yes, I am a man who happens to love sex but that does not mean I now fall into that bracket, because statements like that tend to be aimed at men who have sex with men (MSM). Ask yourself how many times you have heard someone saying, “gays are promiscuous or gays love sex too much?” I am sure you have heard it so many times that you already anticipate when someone will say it in a conversation and you sommer finish the sentence for them.Pinkbulge

I’ve found that statements like these come from people who are not comfortable owning their own sexual experiences and sexuality. I am a bottom gay man who enjoys sex with other men and because I have taken time to learn about my body, I know how to make sexual experiences great for myself. I am comfortable with knowing that I am sexually attracted to other men and more often than not I will act on that. The problem is that society is fed information through media and social media platforms that the reason HIV is higher amongst MSM in comparison to straight men is due to the difference in sexual behavior. For example, it has been suggested that US gay men have higher rates of HIV infection in comparison to US straight men because of differences in sexual behaviors. However, an article published in Sexually Transmitted Infections (BMJ) says that the differences in sexual behaviors do not fully explain the differences. This also applies to South Africa because if we look at the pregnancy rates/stats in the country and how HIV affects both MSM and straight men, we will find there really isn’t much of a difference in our behaviors.

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